Journey Of Marriage

JOURNEY OF MARRIAGE

With the life becoming a race and day getting shortened we all are on a track-track of life. We are running after one or another thing in chase of happiness, taking all the toll and keeping our eyes on the final destinations.

We suppose that once we reach there we would b happy and enjoy then. But does it really happens????

Once we chase the thing we were aspiring for we feel like that we had missed a lot in our lives. In quest of some big happiness we had sacrificed all the little moments that were too sweet and adorable .

This is the scenario in every phase of life and even marriages are not untouched  with this race.

In zest of our D – day we miss all the precious moments leading to this beautiful event .The journey of marriage from engagement to the wedding is beautiful at its every milestone.

The voyage starts with the photographs being exchanged followed by the tray of tea in girl’s hand and all the people staring her as if some supernatural power had stepped down on earth. A trail of questions with loads of expectations are on the way. Girl with all the possible decent behaviour  tries to be calm on the most irritating questions and answers every little thing bearing an 32 teeth smile on her pretty nervous face.

Where the in laws are judging her “susheelta” and “sundarta” , boy is sitting in world of different thoughts. He is in dielemme whether the beautiful face sitting before him is beautiful at heart too????Will she love him????Will she take care of her parents???Will she be compatible???Will she be the one whom I had always dreamt of???

He tries to find all the answers in the eyes of gal by looking at her from the corners of his eyes.

The heart of the gal is also at the same pace. Though answering all the whereabouts to elders, she is too keen to know does the boy liked her??? Will he be her prince charming?? Will he support her throughout the life?? Will he be honest and trustworthy???

After all the discussions between elders to each other’s kids, finally it’s the time for the boy nd gal to talk each other. With lots of hesitation and nervousnesss they proceed and on their affirmation rishta gets confirmed  from both sides.

Would be man and the wife exchange their numbers and all of a sudden the unknown numbers  become most recently and most frequently dialled in their cell phone. Every beep makes the heart beat run fastly , throughout the day they keep waiting to be in touch .Together they plan for the future coming ahead .

Love is totally in the air.

They get engaged, many rituals are followed. Their every single day passes as if a light year. Both of them desperately wait for the day when they would tie in the pious knot to be each other’s or forever.

Finally the big day arrives .With all the blessings of loves ones , they enter into a new world-the world that existed only in dreams few months back……

Beauty of any destination lies in its journey and we at ultra rich keep care that none of your milestone gets unenjoyed……………..

 

 

Namrta Chauhan

The Wedding rings and Diamond

The Wedding rings and Diamond

Wedding rings are the most important ornament of a wedding. The ceremony of wearing a wedding ring dates 11th century in the western culture. In India it has been much older, we have read stories were rings have been exchanged between couples as a sign of love. Traditionally, the wedding ring is presented as a betrothal gift by a man to his prospective spouse while he proposes marriage or directly after she accepts his marriage proposal thus, represents a formal agreement to future marriage. The wedding ring is worn on the wedding day in the western culture and on the engagement ceremony in the Indian culture. The ring so worn not only depicts the love of his or her better half but also that the person is booked and hence not available for further affairs.

Ring finger- is also known as the magical figure in some ancient culture, while the others call it a nameless finger (Anamika-in Sanskrit). The wedding ring is worn in this finger because the vein in this finger, called (Vena Amoris) as said to be directly connected to the heart, a symbol of love.

Initially wedding rings were like bands a circle which showed a never ending cycle of love for each other and then came the stone on top of that circle to make that band more beautiful.

In the wedding rings 18 carat gold is preferred but, common metal types such as goldplatinumtitaniumsilver and stainless steel are also used for engagement rings. This allows for the bride-to-be to exert her own individual style into the ring in a simplistic manner. Now a day’s Brides are very conscious and particular about their wedding rings because not only they wear the ring throughout their lives but also because it has become a sign of their spouse wealth. The size of diamond in a bride’s wedding band depicts the worth of her husband’s wealth this tradition is actually very old. In older times, the wedding rings were not only a sign of love, but were also linked to the bestowal of ‘earnest money’.

Diamonds have been chosen as the stone in the wedding ring because they are said to last forever. A compressed compound of carbon diamond has an extremely long life. This particular feature of a long life gives diamond a place in the wedding ring. The value of diamond in the wedding ring ranges from some thousands to crores of rupees depending upon individuals.

Anchal Jain

Marriage – A divine Relation

Marriage-a  divine relation

Mehendi hai rachne wali hatho me ghri lali……kahe sakhiya ab kaliya hatho me khilne wali h…tere man ko jeevan ko nai khusiya milne wali…….o hariyali banno

The day of marriage is  the day of sharing a lifetime eternal bond. Fragnance of the D- day since the ritual of roka doesn’t let the future bride and the bridegroom to sleep. All of a sudden dreams filled wide open eyes change the world of the girl and the boy.Both express their excitement in different ways- where the boy expresses it by looking for all the possible honeymoon destinations,the girl gets over conscious about her looks and all the ceremonies .Their heart beats resonate but the way of expression lies in the genes!!!!

The childhood dream of the girl of her prince charming coming to her riding a white horse and that of a boy unveiling his bride on d bed of roses is suddenly going to become a reality. The roka comes with a lot of questions!!!! Is he/she the right person to spend the whole life with? Will she care and love me as my mother did? Will he support me like my father? Will she prove a daughter to my parents rather than a typical bahu and vice versa? They actually try to find answer to satisfy their question for each other by talking a lot just after the marriage has been fixed in today’s scenario.This is the exact time when they come close to each other and take their first steps towards developing understanding-this period basically  bridges the foundation of a new budding lifetime relationship.

As the day of the grand event comes closer followed by a trail of rituals and ceremonies, the families get ample time to develop understanding and this is what actually matters in an arrange marriage which is aptly described as-“saadi na sirf do insano ka balki do parivaro ka mail h” .Each ritual has its own significance but the prime concern is to nourish the budding relation with all the blessings , love and care that can be showered!!!

Finally the eternal bond comes with its own responsibilities and expectations which must be timely and unnoticeably fulfilled to keep the tree of family and relations lively for the branches to bear its sweet fruits and it becomes the responsibility of both the sides to forward a hand of mutual respect to achieve a common goal of HAPPY LIVING.

With ULTRA RICH we help you to take your first steps towards finding a match that will actually prove your better half in every way and later giving this match god’s affirmity to share a lifetime bond.

RELATIONS ARE MADE IN HEAVEN,WE KNOW WHERE TO FIND YOUR SOUL MATE AND HOW TO TIE THE KNOT!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Namrta Chauhan

A Mother Says

A mother says………

From K.G. till graduation,

U were always a kid at heart my son.

From your first kite,

to the college’s  fight.

U were so enthusiastic,

for anything that u felt realistic.

U showed me loads of tantrums in temperament,

but always cared for my every sentiment.

U were always disorganized,

but  please try to be somewhat synchronized.

Now when u had grown up dear,

and gonna marry sum gal in future near.

I just wanna say,

be responsible and keep your wife gay.

Treat her like  your queen,

give  her all the happiness that one had ever seen.

She will come leaving her own family,

to become only yours for forever solely.

Be trust worthy and honest to her,

don’t let ever suffer.

As you are the apple of my eye,

she is also someone’s cutie pie.

 

Namrta Chauhan

 

AFTER EFFECT OF MARRIAGE

Marriage lays the foundation of a family. According to me, getting married is a must! You need to find the right person to get married to. There are two different ways that we generally follow to get married, either arranged marriage or love marriage. The former is the most commonly followed in India. However while considering both, I found out that there are certain side effects related to both the types. Let us consider one at a time.
where each time I hear the phrase “Arranged Marriage”, I recollect the song of “Apache Indian”. He goes on to describe the girl he wants to get married to “me want gal, to look after me, to make me roti…” The concept of arranged marriages is the usual norm followed in India. It is how most of the Indians get married. No matter how westernized India may have become arranged marriages are still preferred in most of the Indian families. The concepts of arranged marriage may sound impractical to the Western world but for Indians it is something they favor. It is a system, which originated when child marriage was a custom in the country.
If we consider the side effects of arranged marriage, the first thing that comes to my mind is that the boy and the girl do not get to know their future spouses before marriage. Two unknown people get married without knowing and understanding each other. I have heard of many cases from my friends that girls even do not get the opportunity to see their bridegroom before marriage. In case of arranged marriagesthe marriage itself is the beginning. They will have to start from the scratch, know each other, fall in love or rather you have to fall in love, as you have no other choice.
The matching of kundalis (horoscopes) is a must, but does that mean that the partners are compatible mentally, emotionally and also physically. One fine day you will suddenly find a person totally unknown to you and it is decided that you ought to live the rest of your life with him. According to me the rest of the life comes later, at that point of time you feel how to spend a day with him. Everything turns out to be in a haphazard condition. These are some drawbacks that one face in an arranged marriage. I also had an arranged marriage. For me it was like staying with a stranger. I remember the mornings when I used to get up and get baffled as to who was sleeping beside me and at times I used to even get afraid. But then things get all settled and you feel afraid when that person is not there beside you. That is called ‘Love’, which turns everything at ease.
Not all the love stories in love marriages have happy endings. In love marriages you come to know each other quite well, as you get to spend time with each other, fall in love, and then decide to get married. Although there is other side of the coin too, which I believe is very true. Staying with a person under the same shelter requires lot of adjustments, patience and understanding from both. Even after you spend hours with each other, situation after marriage is totally different.
In love marriages there is nothing new to discover which at times may end up making your life boring. When two people are in love, they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. It is after marriage that you get to know the person behind the mask. On the other hand there are couples who are still discovering each other even after several years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.
Love or arranged both are based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. It’s not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it’s all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.

– SANJAY SINGH CHAHAR

Importance of marriage in Indian Culture

 

India is a nation with vast and ancient traditions. The country blossoms with an extensive numbers of colorful culture, languages, communities and tribes. India gives great significance to the tradition of marriage. Indian Marriages are always celebrated with great happiness and enthusiasm. Marriages in India are the most memorable event of one’s life. The Indian culture has never been rigid and that’s why it’s surviving with pride in the modern era. It timely imbibes the qualities of various other cultures and comes out as a contemporary and acceptable tradition. That is what unique about the Indian culture..it moves on with the time
Indian marriages are performed with great purity and making couple to learn the true meanings of being together. Marriage is also the only relationship, which connects the married couple for the life time. The most important thing in one’s life is to marry at right age, with the right person.
The most difficult task is to find the right person to marry and Indian people spend large amount of time for the matrimonial search. Nowadays love marriages have made easy for the parents to search an online matrimonial site. As now boys and girls find their own life partners and parents are left with the task of showering their love and blessings on their children for their happy married life. In India new concept of love marriage is introduced. It has brought a new revolutionary change in the thought process of the Indians. Now Indian marriages are of more effervescent and exaggerated, due to the participation of the young minds. But in case of the arrange marriages, the process remains the same. The matrimonial search for the potential Indian bride and groom has to go a number of phases.
Parents, friends, relatives of the particular bride or groom really have to do a proper research work before forming a grouping with the other family members. There are various different ways for matrimonial search in India. It sometimes, becomes very complicated to find a perfect match for the potential Indian bride or India groom. But with the origination of internet, it has become far easier to search an Indian groom or bride for marriage.
The Indian culture has never been rigid and that’s why it’s surviving with pride in the modern era. It timely imbibes the qualities of various other cultures and comes out as a contemporary and acceptable tradition. That is what unique about the Indian culture..it moves on with the time.

– SANJAY SINGH CHAHAR

Gujrati wedding

Gujrati wedding

Since time immemorable  marriage had been an integral part of human culture.It is way for the propensity  of human civilization.Whatever the latitude we look for ,howsoever the people and their tradition be in that zone of globe -one concept nurtures the core of every human being-marriage.

Marriage is the heritage of every culture and is thought to be one of most essential part of an individual’s life.

With the geographic boundaries dresses change , cuisine changes and the traditions too.Like every other flock of people gujratis have their own customs and beliefs for marriage.They follow a set of different ritual.Behind every difference lies the common idea of blessing the couple tieing into nuptial knots of relation.

Pre wedding rituals

1)Sagai- the to be brides goes to the home of to be groom with matli which is generally made of steel and imbibes sweets n gifts in it.Matli is a symbol of good luck and is a way to demarcate the acceptance of relation by girl’s family.

It ends with a small rasm where 5 ladies from each family bless the would be couple.This represents the promise between the families going to become relatives

2)Garba- is one of the most popular dance form that makes every feet to move on the rhythm.It is a social gathering that takes place a night before marriage.Here the couples dance with daandia in hands.The motive of this ceremony is to introduce the people of same religion so that future couples could be made.

3)Pithi-its an alternative name of the rasm haldi where gal and boy both are applied with haldi paste for the cleansing of skin.

4)Mehndi-bride’s hands and feets are adorned with heena paste.

5)Mandap mahurat-pooja’s are performed in both the homes of would be bride and groom.This is a way of asking lord ganesha’s blessing for the commensuration of new relationship.

6)Grih shanti-this pooja is performed for the happy married life of new  couple and escape of any dosh if present.It is planned on an specific mahurat after matching the horoscopes of bride and groom.

Wedding ceremony

1)Bharat-the grooms family moves to the bride’s home dancing and celebrating.Generally the dulha sits on ghodi but now a days lavish cars are a new trend.

2)Ponkvu-it is an official start of gujrati marriage where groom’s mother in law welcomes the barat with aarti and teases groom by poking his nose.This is away to signify that it is the groom who has come to their door asking for their daughter’s hand.

3)Jaimala-exchange of garlands between the bride and groom.

4)Madhuparka-the groom is invited to mandap where his feet are washed with honey and milk.During this duration saali’s(gal’s sisters) steal the shoes of groom and demand joota churai shagun(gifts and cash)to return them,traditionally the groom is to return wearing the same shoes he came wearing.

5)Kanya agmana-the bride is brought to the mandap by her mama(maternal unle).An antarpat (curtain)is stretched between the bride and groom which is lowered with the proceedings of pooja and garlands are exchanged.

6)Kanya daan-here the gal’s parents keeps her hands over that of grrom signifying that they are giving the laxmi(their daughter) to lord Vishnu(groom).Parents generally fast on the day so as to keep themselves pure for the ritual.

7)Hasta milap-here the scarf of groom is tied to the saree of bride signifying the union of two souls.Pandit chants mantra and relatives shower the rice and rose petals to bless the couple.

8) Mangal Pheras- The bride and groom circle the sacred fire four times, signifying the four basic human goals of Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha ,with the mantra chantings by pandita nd their recitation by groom.At the end of the pheras the bride and groom will run to sit down first and the one who finds a seat first is said to rule the house

9) Saptapadi- The groom helps the bride touch seven betel nuts with her right toe, while they recite the seven vows. With each step, the groom chants mantras in which he requests support from his wife.

10) Saubhagyavati Bhava – Seven married women from the bride’s side will pass by the couple at this time and whisper blessings into the bride’s right ear.

11)Chero Pakaryo- Traditionally, when the bride’s mother passes, the groom will tug at her sari as a way of asking the bride’s family for gifts.

12)Ashirwadcouple asks for the blessings of their elders.

Post wedding

1)Vidaai – departure of the newly married couple with tears of joy and sadness. The bride is often carried out by her brothers.

2)Ghar Nu Laxmi- The bride is welcomed into the groom’s home as the Goddess Laxmi who will bring good fortune to her new home. The mother-in-law places a vessel filled with rice at the entrance to the home which is to be spilled by the bride by touching it with her right foot. This is a symbol of wealth and the bride accepts her responsibilities towards her new home.

3)Aeki BekiThe couple will then often play a game called Aeki Beki in which a tray of water is mixed with milk and sindoor (vermilion). In this tray are placed several coins and a ring. It is believed that the person who finds the ring four out of seven times will rule the household. The day is concluded with prayers to God requesting happiness and love for the newly married couple.

Here we at ultra rich match takes care that with the daandias & dhoklas fun reaches its extreme heights and you keep enjoying with no worries of ritual arrangements……..

 

 

Namrta  Chauhan