Since time immemorable marriage had been an integral part of human culture.It is way for the propensity of human civilization.Whatever the latitude we look for ,howsoever the people and their tradition be in that zone of globe -one concept nurtures the core of every human being-marriage.
Marriage is the heritage of every culture and is thought to be one of most essential part of an individual’s life.
With the geographic boundaries dresses change , cuisine changes and the traditions too.Like every other flock of people gujratis have their own customs and beliefs for marriage.They follow a set of different ritual.Behind every difference lies the common idea of blessing the couple tieing into nuptial knots of relation.
Pre wedding rituals
1)Sagai- the to be brides goes to the home of to be groom with matli which is generally made of steel and imbibes sweets n gifts in it.Matli is a symbol of good luck and is a way to demarcate the acceptance of relation by girl’s family.
It ends with a small rasm where 5 ladies from each family bless the would be couple.This represents the promise between the families going to become relatives
2)Garba- is one of the most popular dance form that makes every feet to move on the rhythm.It is a social gathering that takes place a night before marriage.Here the couples dance with daandia in hands.The motive of this ceremony is to introduce the people of same religion so that future couples could be made.
3)Pithi-its an alternative name of the rasm haldi where gal and boy both are applied with haldi paste for the cleansing of skin.
4)Mehndi-bride’s hands and feets are adorned with heena paste.
5)Mandap mahurat-pooja’s are performed in both the homes of would be bride and groom.This is a way of asking lord ganesha’s blessing for the commensuration of new relationship.
6)Grih shanti-this pooja is performed for the happy married life of new couple and escape of any dosh if present.It is planned on an specific mahurat after matching the horoscopes of bride and groom.
1)Bharat-the grooms family moves to the bride’s home dancing and celebrating.Generally the dulha sits on ghodi but now a days lavish cars are a new trend.
2)Ponkvu-it is an official start of gujrati marriage where groom’s mother in law welcomes the barat with aarti and teases groom by poking his nose.This is away to signify that it is the groom who has come to their door asking for their daughter’s hand.
3)Jaimala-exchange of garlands between the bride and groom.
4)Madhuparka-the groom is invited to mandap where his feet are washed with honey and milk.During this duration saali’s(gal’s sisters) steal the shoes of groom and demand joota churai shagun(gifts and cash)to return them,traditionally the groom is to return wearing the same shoes he came wearing.
5)Kanya agmana-the bride is brought to the mandap by her mama(maternal unle).An antarpat (curtain)is stretched between the bride and groom which is lowered with the proceedings of pooja and garlands are exchanged.
6)Kanya daan-here the gal’s parents keeps her hands over that of grrom signifying that they are giving the laxmi(their daughter) to lord Vishnu(groom).Parents generally fast on the day so as to keep themselves pure for the ritual.
7)Hasta milap-here the scarf of groom is tied to the saree of bride signifying the union of two souls.Pandit chants mantra and relatives shower the rice and rose petals to bless the couple.
8) Mangal Pheras- The bride and groom circle the sacred fire four times, signifying the four basic human goals of Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha ,with the mantra chantings by pandita nd their recitation by groom.At the end of the pheras the bride and groom will run to sit down first and the one who finds a seat first is said to rule the house
9) Saptapadi- The groom helps the bride touch seven betel nuts with her right toe, while they recite the seven vows. With each step, the groom chants mantras in which he requests support from his wife.
10) Saubhagyavati Bhava – Seven married women from the bride’s side will pass by the couple at this time and whisper blessings into the bride’s right ear.
11)Chero Pakaryo- Traditionally, when the bride’s mother passes, the groom will tug at her sari as a way of asking the bride’s family for gifts.
12)Ashirwad – couple asks for the blessings of their elders.
1)Vidaai – departure of the newly married couple with tears of joy and sadness. The bride is often carried out by her brothers.
2)Ghar Nu Laxmi- The bride is welcomed into the groom’s home as the Goddess Laxmi who will bring good fortune to her new home. The mother-in-law places a vessel filled with rice at the entrance to the home which is to be spilled by the bride by touching it with her right foot. This is a symbol of wealth and the bride accepts her responsibilities towards her new home.
3)Aeki Beki–The couple will then often play a game called Aeki Beki in which a tray of water is mixed with milk and sindoor (vermilion). In this tray are placed several coins and a ring. It is believed that the person who finds the ring four out of seven times will rule the household. The day is concluded with prayers to God requesting happiness and love for the newly married couple.
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